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He’s trying to take over my life

He Dear Bunmi, After over six months with my boyfriend, I don’t know if I love him as much as when we started going out. Emerhor hails Oyegun at 80(Opens in a new browser tab) ex Prevent diabetes foot ulcers(Opens in a new browser tab) He doesn’t like my friends and he doesn’t like me […]

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These keys could be for his secret flat

keys Dear Bunmi, My husband and I are in our late 50s and have been married for 20 years. It’s the second marriage for both of us. He goes out most nights to have a drink with his friends. love He thinks I’m too ambitious(Opens in a new browser tab) We’ve always had a trusting […]

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Every woman owe it to herself to try a younger lover

As you’ve often pointed out in your ever enlightening column,” a reader writes, “a big percentage of marriages in this country fail.  Even those that do survive, like mine, are mere skeletons when compared to complete fulfilment. My husband of 14 years sometimes acts like a weed choking a desirable, flowering and imaginative relationship. “In […]

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Am I world’s worst bastard?

Am I world’s worst bastard? Dear Bunmi, I’m in my 60s with three daughters and four grandchildren.  I married my wife 42 years ago, but shortly before our 30th anniversary, I noticed subtle changes that became progressively worse. She was   diagnosed with Alzheimers, became increasingly irrational and was eventually admitted. I was devastated, and so […]

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Sex Drive: How to pinpoint what’s causing your man’s erotic apathy

Sex Drive: The wildly held belief is that as soon as a man clamps eyes on a woman, he has nothing but sex on the brain, and when the atmosphere is conducive, he’s rearing to go and is guaranteed to ring your bell all of the time!  Isn’t that a tall order for the average […]

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Food for the elders (1)

By Yetunde Arabi Hi! “At what point does a man decide to risk it all, his marriage, children and the love and respect of all those who depend on him, to embark on a mission that may turn his world upside down? The man you are about to read his story travelled this lane when […]

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Accused of marrying her for her money

By Dear Bunmi, Dear Bunmi, I’m a qualified accountant from a humble background in love with a silver-spoon girl. We have a happy relationship and we are thinking of getting married. The problem is, other people seem not to approve. I have been accused of being a parasite because I’m marrying someone rich. love Woman […]

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Lovemaking, not sex!!

By Yetunde Arebi One good fallout of the Busola/Fatoyinbo saga is the various discourse about sex and sexuality and the many issues surrounding it. File: Love Cartoon During one of such discussions with a group of guys recently, I was bombarded with a number of questions all of which bothered on the way men still […]

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Helping your man cope with the male menopause

By Bunmi Sofola At  an 18-year-old birthday party recently, Gabriel, a 54-year-old father of five told me he got a mild shock. A friend had taken his daughter because he was due to attend a very urgent meeting. File: Cartoon display He promised to pick up his daughter on his way back when he was […]

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Men who love their own company!

When Fela’s wife walked out on him some 15 years ago, he was naturally devastated.  He’d gone abroad for a six-week course from his office and came back to meet an empty house – his wife of 12 years and their three children had vanished. Not only that, the wife had left the keys to […]

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Betrayed by love

By Yetunde Arebi Hi, Life and love are beds or roses. Beautiful, yet thorny. Sometimes good and pleasurable and sometimes not so good, hurtful and painful. It will take a lot for one to rise above with murky waters. The two letters you are about to read elicited mixed reactions in me after reading them, […]

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How can I handle my friend’s affair with my wife?

Dear Bunmi, My childhood friend got appointed into a very juicy post and since then, my fortunes have changed. He’s thrown a lot of contracts my way and we’ve been able to complete our own house and change cars. Love gone broken He has also made my wife the official caterer of the establishment he […]

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Be wary of those `Detoxing’ Products!

Are you one of the millions of people who, worn down or stressed out by modern life, have been seduced by myths that the recipe for glowing good health involves little more than sticking dudgy-looking patches on your skin or slugging down Aloe Vera and wheatgrass smoothie?  Unfortunately, observed Professor Atan Boobies, a university toxiologist, […]

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Why are some men so fickle?

Dear Bunmi, My boyfriend and I were on the verge of making wedding plans when he married someone else because she was pregnant! You can imagine how heart-broken I was and since then, I have made up my mind not to get into another serious relationship. I realised that most men just use women and […]

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Searching for Love?

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Can the ghost of a first wife ever be exorcised?

Bunmi Sofola Family birthdays of Daniella’s parents-in-law’s house are mandatory but lively affairs, with all the children and grand-children present to wish either Taleb, the patriarch of the family or Evia his wife happy birthday.  “Right from the beginning, I’d found these re-unions terrifying”, confessed Daniella.  “As time passed though, and my marriage to Franklyn […]

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Would you have an affair to save your marriage?

Why is it that incidents that are totally unplanned, become the most memorable?  Some weeks back, a friend marked a landmark birthday and decided to push out the boat.  She resides outside Lagos but had booked all the rooms in a posh hotel in the city she decided to have the bash in. Quite a […]

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Broken homes,consequences and it’s effects on children by Maria Habila

Alot of children die in silence because of what they didn’t plan for. suicide is increasing daily because people don’t know how to get help or who to talk to about their situation and probably because there is no one available. the dangers of divorce and it’s effects on children is explored in the video. […]

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How to help your daughter through a violent relationship

Bunmi Sofola With the spate of violence going on in the country, is it any wonder that teenage girls are vulnerable to rape, violence and manipulation from their so-called boyfriends?  Faith, a 42-year old nursing sister had her daughter, Nike, when she was only 20.  “Even as a child, you could see the potentials of […]

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Revenge sex often backfires!

Revenge sex – done purely to get back at someone who’s hurt you – rarely pays off even though it sounds great in theory. Your partner cheated on you; why not get your own back by cheating on them so they can see how it feels to get hurt?  Deolu found it out the hard […]

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Ever wondered why your relationships seldom last?

Bunmi Sofola If a relationship doesn’t last more than six weeks or so, there’s probably a perfectly simple explanation.  No big deal. No hard feelings. No problem. But if no relationship of yours ever seems to last more than six weeks or so, there’s something more serious going on.  And it’s worth finding out what. […]

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What an ex-banker spends the recession doing!

Eight years ago, Bella lost her job as a marketing executive when the relatively new bank she worked for down-sized.  “The job was a glorified name for prostitution anyway”, she explained in her usually blunt way.  “Female employees are sent into the `field’ to solicit for customers for the bank – and we were usually […]

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How can I get pregnant with his poor performance?

Dear Bunmi, I turned 40 a few weeks ago and would very much like to have a child before it’s too late. I got married to my husband less than three years ago, and initially, sex with him was great but in the last one year, he has not been performing properly. He gets an […]

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Don’t be too much in a hurry to end your marriage

As bad as the economy is, there are tons of people who regard broken down gadgets with distaste and either give them away or toss them into the dustbin instead of bothering to repair them.  But what happens if your relationship doesn’t live up to your expectation?  Do you try to fix it or do […]

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Son confused on which of his girls to take to the altar!

Bunmi Sofola Recently, I had begun to wonder if we shouldn’t go back to the old but tedious method of screening the pedigree of prospective partners before parents give the nod to any marriage proposal. What brought this on is the outcome of a so-called, no-holds-barred society wedding that took place not so long ago. […]