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Ever wondered why your relationships seldom last?

Bunmi Sofola If a relationship doesn’t last more than six weeks or so, there’s probably a perfectly simple explanation.  No big deal. No hard feelings. No problem. But if no relationship of yours ever seems to last more than six weeks or so, there’s something more serious going on.  And it’s worth finding out what. […]

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What an ex-banker spends the recession doing!

Eight years ago, Bella lost her job as a marketing executive when the relatively new bank she worked for down-sized.  “The job was a glorified name for prostitution anyway”, she explained in her usually blunt way.  “Female employees are sent into the `field’ to solicit for customers for the bank – and we were usually […]

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How can I get pregnant with his poor performance?

Dear Bunmi, I turned 40 a few weeks ago and would very much like to have a child before it’s too late. I got married to my husband less than three years ago, and initially, sex with him was great but in the last one year, he has not been performing properly. He gets an […]

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Don’t be too much in a hurry to end your marriage

As bad as the economy is, there are tons of people who regard broken down gadgets with distaste and either give them away or toss them into the dustbin instead of bothering to repair them.  But what happens if your relationship doesn’t live up to your expectation?  Do you try to fix it or do […]

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Son confused on which of his girls to take to the altar!

Bunmi Sofola Recently, I had begun to wonder if we shouldn’t go back to the old but tedious method of screening the pedigree of prospective partners before parents give the nod to any marriage proposal. What brought this on is the outcome of a so-called, no-holds-barred society wedding that took place not so long ago. […]

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Would you lie to net a lover?

By Bunmi Sofola A person desperate to have a relationship would swallow any lies dished out by an opportunist out to have a good time and nothing else. Often times, you get trapped in the web of lies you weave and what happens? “Towards the end of last year, I put myself in a bit of […]

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A Chance Meeting

By Yetunde Arebi Hi, Reunion with an old friend can be quite interesting, especially if it is someone you    have always longed to see again. And so it was for Gbenga and I upper week when I ran into him at a wedding reception of a friend’s son. I had not seen him in […]

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A Chance Meeting

Reunion with an old friend can be quite interesting, especially if it is someone you    have always longed to see again. And so it was for Gbenga and I upper week when I ran into him at a wedding reception of a friend’s son. I had not seen him in close to 20 years, […]

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My husband is having sex with a mad woman, wife tells court

An Ado-Ekiti Customary Court on Friday dissolved a 14-year-old marriage between Amaka Nwafor,36; and her husband, Friday Nwafor,47, the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports. Continue reading My husband is having sex with a mad woman, wife tells court at Vanguard News. Hits: 0

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The most mistake you can make is play at matchmaking!

Bunmi Sofola A few years back, a group of my friends resolved to resort to subtle matchmaking between our fast growing kids so we could at least have an input in the success of their marriage. The success we’ve had so far is not very encouraging. When it comes to romance, these youngsters know what […]

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Honestly, my wife’s complain makes me angry, husband tells court

Ibadan – The three-year-old marriage between one Kafayat Aliyu and her husband, Kamorudeen, was on Tuesday dissolved by an Idi-Ogungun Customary Court in Ibadan on the grounds of the latter’s irresponsibility. Kafayat, a trader, who lives at Beyeruka area of Ibadan, told the court that she never experienced peace of mind and enjoyment in the […]

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The betrayal of a husband-snatching friend!

By Bunmi Sofola The more friends show the depth of their betrayal, the more shocked you are. Instead of their escapades diminishing, it grows in leaps and bounds, leaving you wondering if the word, ‘friendship’ shouldn’t be re-defined. When Raymond lost his well-paid job after the IT company he headed folded up, it was left […]

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Why children hate their alcoholic parents

By Bunmi Sofola NO matter how many unprintable words you would use for an alcoholic, the fact still remains that alcoholism, apart from being a sign of weakness, is also a ‘disease.’ Once the bug bites you, getting it out of your system becomes a nightmare. The nightmare becomes endless when you have to live […]

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Why the death of a mother is the most difficult to get over

By Bunmi Sofola I lost my mother six months ago and I’m still devastated” – wrote a reader. “She was my best friend as well as my mum and since her death, I haven’t been able to cope.  I’ve been put on sleeping tablets but I still can’t sleep I am a single mother and my […]

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Why the death of a mother is the most difficult to get over

By Bunmi Sofola I lost my mother six months ago and I’m still devastated” – wrote a reader. “She was my best friend as well as my mum and since her death, I haven’t been able to cope.  I’ve been put on sleeping tablets but I still can’t sleep I am a single mother and my […]

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Betrayal!

Hi, The first few years of marriage are regarded as the teething period as many couples often experience different problems while trying to settle in. But what happens when the problem threatens the foundation of the marriage as in the case of Shadia. Below, she recounts how she had to fight off a woman she […]

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Should I try again with my ex now I’m married?

Dear Bunmi, I got married two years ago when I hadn’t completely fallen out of love with my ex-girlfriend. I met my wife on the rebound after my ex left me for another man. But the relationship didn’t work out and she’s started e-mailing me. Lovers My wife is a kind, gentle and good company […]

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Why shouldn’t married women fancy other men

Dear Bunmi, My husband and I are happy in our marriage. We have two little girls and a satisfactory sex life. Lately, however, I’ve found myself fantasizing about other men, particularly my husband’s closest friend. He’s recently been separated from his wife and I find myself thinking about him all the time. POLL: Nigerians say […]

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Embarrassing Date Disasters!

For all you know, such `husbands’ are either non-existent or are out with other interesting `discoveries’. No matter what criticisms you have against this type of freedom, it is still good for the female psyche. You go out to let off seam and not necessarily to be mischievous as most men want to believe”. Continue […]

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Would you lie about your age to net a younger lover?

Love or is it lust is so thin on the ground these days you’re encouraged to grab it when and where you find it. Which is exactly what Mope did!  She runs a thriving modest creche, and was at this lavish 40th birthday bash when she ran into Olu.  “It was a lively party”, said […]

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The quality of sleep you get matters…

By Bunmi Sofola It’s been tagged the most amazing remedy—sleep. Scientific findings tell you it helps you live longer and boosts your immune system. It puts you in a great mood,reduces your risk of everything from heart disease to diabetes—and it’s completely free. sleep It has no side-effects and is available to everyone. “Taking steps […]

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I need to get back to the dating scene

Dear Bunmi, I have just come out of a marriage that lasted almost 12 years. It was an amicable separation and I’m not interested in getting seriously involved with anyone, but I recently had some one-night stands which I’ve handled badly. I’m not sure what’s expected of me any more, the dating scene seems to […]

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Do girls prefer ‘bad’ men?

Dear Bunmi, I’m an old-fashioned man and like to treat a woman correctly. I have a good job and I recently re-located to the country. I open doors for my girlfriends and hate to see a woman carrying heavy bags. But I find women don’t accept my chivalry and prefer men who treat them badly. […]

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Is the bad economy enough reason to ‘Go on the Game’?

By Bunmi Sofola As to be expected, the current economic meltdown has created a lot of people who grapple with the menace of the credit crunch – not only have they lost their jobs, the prospect of finding any other, not to talk of one commensurate in remunerations is zilch!  When Eunice, a personnel director […]

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Ways science is helping to give you back your youth!

By Bunmi Sofola A new book claims that testosterone could be the secret weapon every middle-aged woman needs in the fight against not just a flagging libido, but the entire aging process. Youth From a revived sex life to plump skin, strong nails, abundant hair, a youthful figure and sharp mental skills, the hormone can […]